Originally Posted by
KirillMazur
You can not give such advice and designate strict deadlines for life stages. And I don't know any couples (especially husbands, and for a wife this is often a conscious choice) who have sacrificed their careers because of children. On the contrary, family people are more responsible and get promotions easier. For some positions, family and children are an unspoken requirement.
Life "for yourself" is childhood and youth, when you do not yet have the responsibility and resources necessary for degradation. After that, the family keeps you in shape and gives meaning to development, cutting off harmful elements.
My parents were 27 when I was born. So when I was growing up, my parents were still young and full of energy. My grandparents weren't very old either.
I'm afraid that if my parents were 40-45 years old at the time of my birth, my childhood would have had a much grayer tint, on a par with their parenthood. And grandparents - these would be vivid memories from the days of kindergarten.
So get married when you feel that you have found the right partner and are ready to move on to the next stage - to discard egoism and develop yourself for the future unit of society.
Our first son was born when I was 31, he will be 4 at the end of December. I think it's rather late, but up to this point the suitable conditions were just forming.
There are thoughts about a second child, but this project is still under development, as it requires an expansion of living space and a fundamental change in lifestyle.
As for 70-year-old fathers - yes, a good option for a certain type of woman, if he is a multimillionaire. Young and beautiful millionaires and just promising guys are not in short supply now.